Have you recently wanted something and then you find out you can’t have it. It is painful, but the truth is there is nothing to do about it aside to let go and not dwell on ‘what should have been’. When you dwell on it, it won’t do anything but hurt you more. So, below I am stating the perfect ways to let go and grow.
1. Know there is nothing you could have done about it
There is this question that comes after a painful situation, “maybe if I had acted this way, it wouldn’t have happened” but the truth is there is nothing you could have done about. I was watching an episode from my favorite K-drama of the moment, If The Weather Is Fine, I Will Find You. Kim Bo Young liked Eun Soep since high school, but she didn’t say anything about it. Fast forward to present times, Eun Soep already likes Bo young’s ex-friend, Mok Hye Won and they are dating. Kim Bo Young, out of hurt and anger told Eun Soep about her feelings for him, and Eun Soep told her, even if she confessed her feelings earlier on, nothing would have changed.
That part touched me and I had a long think about it. Nothing would have changed. Knowing there is nothing I could have done about it is a good way to let go and grow. It’s no longer about you or me, it’s about the other person and their feelings and the truth is we can’t control how people feel for us. Knowing that would make a difference and it would make it hurt less.
2. Accept the truth and be thankful (The perfect way to let go)
I haven’t seen the latest episode of ‘If The Weather Is Fine, I Will Find You’, so I don’t know if Kim Bo Young accepted the truth. Accepting truths isn’t an easy thing to do. That I know, but the end result is usually very fine. ‘There is nothing I could have done about it, I accept that and I appreciate your honesty’ is such a liberating sentence. It frees you of the urge to blame yourself and from the urge to find excuses. If the truth isn’t accepted, it creates this feeling of wanting to know what and if there is something you can do to make it change, and like I stated above, nothing would have made a change because it’s not about you but about the other person.
“There is nothing I could have done about it, I accept that and I appreciate your honesty- is such a liberating sentence. It frees you of the urge to blame yourself and from the urge to find excuses.”
3. Remain your beautiful self and move on
These are the words of my friend and I love them so much. It is very important to remain your beautiful self. Don’t lose yourself because something didn’t turn out the way you planned for it to be. I am not disputing the fact that it hurts and pain can make you lose focus, but I want you to know that you are more than the pain. The process of trying to drown yourself in the pain isn’t worth it and I definitely don’t recommend it. What I recommend is following these perfect ways to let go and grow. The thing is, when you remain your beautiful self, you get to love yourself more. Focus on you and today, create a mantra for yourself and live by it. Detach yourself from past feelings, and let a fresh breeze blow over you.
4. The perfect way to let go is by growing
After you have moved on in your beautiful self, I believe what is left is to grow with it. Grow in your new phase and grow out of the old phase. Take new hobbies and give exactly what you receive. Surround yourself with people who want to grow with you and avoid negativity. I learned a few about dealing with negativity from the oddity yesterday and I am definitely going to make use of it. What she said is to block negative people. Don’t allow any sort of negativity. You can make use of it too. Block and smile. Growth is one of the perfect ways to let go because it allows you the perfect opportunity to be a new person without old feelings. Growth is good, growth is change. Embrace it while letting go.
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